Jul 29, 2016 by Anonymous
Caring for a family member or loved one who is suffering from Alzheimer's disease is a unique and very serious challenge. No matter how many times you may deny to yourself the depth of the service you are providing and the effect it has on you, it's hard to ignore over time. You may be feeling emotions that are hard to think about. Some might make you feel guilty, while others are simply too sad. If you've been caring for someone with Alzheimer's disease or another form of dementia, we understand that you may be experiencing some of the following emotions.
As your loved one faces challenges with memory, he or she may have difficulty remembering exactly who you are and even calling you by name. When the patient is one of your parents, this can be especially difficult. You may be feeling like you have already lost your loved one even though they continue to exist. This can be a very lonely feeling. It's hard to talk to your spouse or friends about it, because they didn't share the closeness with your parent that you had. That was unique to you, and feeling lonely is normal. You are mourning someone you love.
This is an emotion that many people feel while providing Alzheimer's and dementia care, though quite a few are reticent to share the emotion out of feelings of guilt. After all, the patient is someone they love very much, and they cannot help it. You may feel angry or even enraged when your loved one becomes irate or cannot perform simple tasks. This frustration is normal. It is often symptomatic of the stress of care giving combined with sadness and incredulity about what is happening. It doesn't mean that you are a bad person or that you dislike your loved one - you are simply human.
If you are balancing a job, kids, a marriage and a household while caring for your loved one with Alzheimer's, we know you're feeling stressed out. How could you not be? You might be feeling like no one is doing as much as you are, and in your own life, you might be right. That's a lot for anyone to take on. You may feel agitated, manic, overtired and generally unhappy throughout your day. When you are feeling stress on this level, it may be a good idea to consider bringing in outside help to assist with caring for your loved one.
If you're struggling with the difficult emotions and realities that come with providing Alzheimer's or dementia care to your loved one in the Ft. Lauderdale area, consider Comfort Keepers. We are experienced in providing compassionate support and loving care at a very difficult point in your life and the life of your loved one. They will be provided with healthy meals, receive help with personal hygiene, have minor cleaning tasks performed and have a companion there to help or just to chat. Your peace of mind is important, and Comfort Keepers can help.